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High Points: Lighten Your Heavy Heart

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Ruben Bolling |

There is a phrase often used by people at memorial services, or by politicians or media types, to describe the grief we feel over someone’s passing: “It is with a heavy heart … ”

There have been far too many days these first few months of 2014 in which far too many people have been afflicted by the weight of the heavy heart. As you all know, The Aspen Times lost a leader, co-worker and loved one this past week when Gunilla Asher succumbed to a long and difficult battle with the Big C.

We all know that life is fleeting and everything and everyone has an expiration date. But when we see those we care about leave us at such young ages, taken by traumatic circumstances, inevitably we feel both the pain and the loss — and we wonder why. It leaves us with a heavy heart. Unfortunately, other than grieving, there is little we can do about the loss of loved ones.

But we can embrace the moments in our own lives and take control over how we spend our time on this earth. It is up to us, individually, to decide if we are going to succumb to the weight of the heavy heart or to rise above our pain and overcome the loss. That is not to say that we should forget or that we should put distance between our mortal lives and those who have gone before. Rather, it says that we, as living beings, have an obligation to ourselves to get the most out of the precious time we have been given.

Earlier this week, Toronto Blue Jays pitcher R.A. Dickey, who is having a solid season, said in an interview that he attributes much of his success this year to being “infatuated with the moment.” He was referring to his ability to focus and how he is able to cut out distractions on the mound. But the phrase “infatuated with the moment” played through my head again and again the next day.

How many of us miss the meaning of the moments of our lives? How often are we distracted from what we are doing by things that happened in the past or things that might, or might not, happen in the future? How often do we find ourselves thinking and obsessing about something other than what we are doing in a given moment? Are you checking your email as you read this? Are you texting while talking to your significant other or your son or daughter?

We all do it. But if we can focus a little more on the things that are truly important to us, if we can enjoy the individual moments just a little more, then I suggest that we will all have happier, more fulfilling lives. And when it is our turn to expire, we will not have heavy hearts but memories of joyous lives lived.

Be infatuated with the moment. You might throw more strikes.

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